Creating A Vocabulary: Girl Porn

These films set up a ridiculous standard divorced from all reality. The ideal person of the opposite sex beyond what the Greek poets and Renaissance artists could imagine. You live vicariously through the film, and everything happens as you want it without having to work to better yourself. You get instant gratification just by popping it into the VCR. Of course you know that this isn’t realistic, but it rewires your brain in more ways than you are immediately conscious of, ruining every future relationship. After a few years you have destroyed your ability to ever have a meaningful relationship that is truly selfless ever again. And yet you crave more, seeking out more videos with even more impossible situations. You spend your entire day off on the couch watching these films, wishing upon a falling star that the scene on screen will happen to you someday.

Does this describe pornography or romantic comedies?

Everything that pornography does to men, Hallmark and Hollywood movies do to women. Colin Firth (or whoever is the current Brad Pitt) movies are girl porn. The difference is it is pornography of emotions instead of physicality.

And it’s just — and I don’t use this word lightly — creepy how women live vicariously through made-up people’s relationships. They cheer for something that will never happen, because it’s just a story. And it’s not an aspirational story about overcoming adversity — just a story about having warm feelings through sheer luck.

Churches rightly condemn pornography designed for men, but they are totally silent about — and occasionally even encouraging of — pornography for women.

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